Matt Veader, LMSW

“There’s nothing more valuable than making people feel seen.” – Erin Gillard


University of Maryland School of Social Work, 2021/Clinical Social Work

Currently accepting new clients for a waitlist.

What’s therapy with me like? I focus on religious trauma, spiritual abuse, healthy masculinity, grief, and major life transitions. My approach to therapy is Rogerian and person-centered, drawing heavily from Internal Family Systems, but I am by no means limited to these and pull from whatever theory will be most helpful.

I like the emphasis these modalities place on the strengths and value of the individual. IFS and Rogerian person-centered therapy treat the client as the expert of their own experience and, in my view, create more space for the client to explore themselves than some of the more structured modalities. 

I also want clients to know that it’s ok to be anxious or nervous or skeptical about coming to therapy. I felt all those things, too, and will do everything I can to make it as comfortable as possible, honoring your boundaries and following your lead every step of the way.

How I’ve kept learning…It’s been said that a commitment to this field is a commitment to lifelong learning. When I’m not in school, I seek out books that will help me grow, both as a clinician and as a person. I try to find authors with different life experiences than mine, who will challenge me to become a better, more compassionate version of myself. I also glean and learn a lot from other clinicians in the field and from clients in session. I recently attended a Five-Day Intensive EMDR Training.

Who do I work with? I prefer to work with young adult and adult individuals.

My impacting identities are…The fact that I have to think about this question is an indication of my privilege. I am a cisgender, straight, white male who’s done a lot of work to root out the ignorance often associated with those labels.

I feel allied/aware/part of/informed/knowledgeable about…Those who have suffered spiritual abuse or religious trauma, especially “ex-vangelicals” (part of), those who’ve been damaged by toxic masculinity, and those who are looking for a space to discuss white privilege, systemic racism, and/or racial trauma. I also want to make it clear that I am LGBTQIA+ affirming and actively seek out voices in the community that will help me grow as a therapist, both in allyship and in clinical understanding.

I am the best fit for a client who…is looking for a soft place to land and a compassionate space to explore.

I am not a good fit for a client who… is completely satisfied with their experiences in a fundamentalist religious context.

What makes me unique? Finding a therapist who speaks the language of religious trauma and spiritual abuse can be extremely difficult. I feel that I am uniquely equipped to explore these experiences with clients because I am a religious trauma survivor myself and have studied and researched its effects for the last seven years.


The Practical Stuff

What insurances do I accept? I am in network with Carefirst BCBS and Evernorth (previously known as Cigna).

Do I offer telehealth or in person sessions? To mitigate any potential risk to my clients and my family, I am only conducting Telehealth sessions at this time.

Am I taking on new clients? Yes, I am taking on new clients and would love to connect if you have any questions or would like to hear more!


The Fun Stuff

Did you know…I was a chimney sweep in undergrad.

Any pets? I have a very sassy Terrier mix named Elsie.

What I’ve Learned Lately

  • Parenting Forward Conference: Parenting After Purity Culture, 2/1 – 2/2/21
  • Ensuring Inequality: The Structural Transformation of the African American Family by Donna Franklin, 3/10/21
  • 2021 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium Conference, 3/18 – 3/21/21
  • This is Home: A Refugee Story, EPIX Documentary, 4/11/21
  • Listened to recordings from 2021 Conference on Religious Trauma, 6/16/21
  • The Wisdom of Trauma by Gabor Maté, SAND Documentary, 6/17/21
  • Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff, 7/24/21
  • It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn, 8/2/21
  • The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation by Deb Dana, 8/13/21
  • Black Therapists Rock: A Glimpse Through the Eyes of Experts Compiled by Deran Young, 8/21
  • Understanding and Addressing Racial Trauma in Behavioral Health, Relias Academy, 8/23/21
  • Mandatory Reporter Training, Baltimore Child Abuse Center, 8/23/21
  • Pray Away, Netflix Documentary, 8/23/21
  • HIPAA and Behavioral Health, Relias Academy, 8/25/21
  • Best Practices in Suicide Screening and Assessment, Relias Academy, 8/26/21
  • Legal and Ethical Standards of Care in Behavioral Health, Relias Academy, 8/30/21
  • Working More Effectively with the LGBTQ+ Community, Relias Academy, 9/1/21
  • Internal Family Systems Therapy (2nd Ed.) by Richard Schwartz and Martha Sweezy, September 2021
  • Racialized Trauma and Collective Healing with the Internal Family Systems Model Collective Trauma Summit 2021, September 2021
  • How Our Nervous System and Real Connection Are the New Frontiers to Healing Trauma Collective Trauma Summit 2021, September 2021
  • Application of Polyvagal Theory for Safety and Connection with Others Collective Trauma Summit 2021, September 2021
  • Grief Within the Family Structure The Living Legacy Foundation, September 2021
  • Second and Multigenerational Adult Former Cult Member Recovery Series, International Cultic Studies Association, 10/10/2021
  • The Impact of Cults on Childhood Development, International Cultic Studies Association, 10/17/21
  • “An Intro to Working With the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) in Therapy,” The Counseling Center, 10/20/21
  • Ask The Experts: Stuttering Awareness Training, Simple Practice, 10/21/21
  • The Harsh Conscience, International Cultic Studies Association, 10/24/21
  • Sexual Issues of Second Generation Adults and Multi-Generation Adult Former Cult Members, International Cultic Studies Association, 10/31/2021
  • Coping with Religious Relatives Over the Holidays, Divorcing Religion, 11/20/21
  • Second and Multigenerational Adult Former Cult Member Recovery Series, Final Discussion, International Cultic Studies Association, 11/21/21
  • Procession, Netflix Documentary, 11/21/21
  • New Techniques of Grief Therapy: Bereavement and Beyond, Robert A. Neimeyer,  12/31/2021
  • The Drama Triangle and the Power & Control Wheel Walk Into a Church, International Cultic Studies Association, 1/9/22
  • Reclamation as a Clinical Intervention, Reclamation Collective, 1/27/22
  • You Are Your Own: A Reckoning with the Religious Trauma of Evangelical Christianity, Jamie Lee Finch, 2/17/22
  • EMDR Basic Training: Five-Day Intensive, The Counseling Center, 3/14/22 – 3/18/22
  • The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection through Embodied Living by Dr. Hillary McBride, 3/19/22
  • Neuroqueer Heresies: Notes on the Neurodiversity Paradigm, Autistic Empowerment, and Postnormal Possibilities by Dr. Nick Walker, 3/25/22
  • Anti-racism Training 3 Month Training, Dr. Nathalie Edmond, 3/2022 & 4/2022


How to Give me A Buzz

The best way to contact me is…by email to


Supervised By: 

Kate Sollitto, LCSW-C