Matt Veader, LMSW
“There’s nothing more valuable than making people feel seen.” – Erin Gillard
University of Maryland School of Social Work, 2021/Clinical Social Work
Not currently accepting new clients.
What’s therapy with me like? I focus on religious trauma, spiritual abuse, healthy masculinity, grief, and major life transitions. My approach to therapy is Rogerian and person-centered, drawing heavily from Internal Family Systems, but I am by no means limited to these and pull from whatever theory will be most helpful.
I like the emphasis these modalities place on the strengths and value of the individual. IFS and Rogerian person-centered therapy treat the client as the expert of their own experience and, in my view, create more space for the client to explore themselves than some of the more structured modalities.
I also want clients to know that it’s ok to be anxious or nervous or skeptical about coming to therapy. I felt all those things, too, and will do everything I can to make it as comfortable as possible, honoring your boundaries and following your lead every step of the way.
How I’ve kept learning…It’s been said that a commitment to this field is a commitment to lifelong learning. When I’m not in school, I seek out books that will help me grow, both as a clinician and as a person. I try to find authors with different life experiences than mine, who will challenge me to become a better, more compassionate version of myself. I also glean and learn a lot from other clinicians in the field and from clients in session. I recently attended a Five-Day Intensive EMDR Training.
Who do I work with? I prefer to work with young adult and adult individuals.
My impacting identities are…The fact that I have to think about this question is an indication of my privilege. I am a cisgender, straight, white male who’s done a lot of work to root out the ignorance often associated with those labels.
I feel allied/aware/part of/informed/knowledgeable about…Those who have suffered spiritual abuse or religious trauma, especially “ex-vangelicals” (part of), those who’ve been damaged by toxic masculinity, and those who are looking for a space to discuss white privilege, systemic racism, and/or racial trauma. I also want to make it clear that I am LGBTQIA+ affirming and actively seek out voices in the community that will help me grow as a therapist, both in allyship and in clinical understanding.
I am the best fit for a client who…is looking for a soft place to land and a compassionate space to explore.
I am not a good fit for a client who… is completely satisfied with their experiences in a fundamentalist religious context.
What makes me unique? Finding a therapist who speaks the language of religious trauma and spiritual abuse can be extremely difficult. I feel that I am uniquely equipped to explore these experiences with clients because I am a religious trauma survivor myself and have studied and researched its effects for the last seven years.
The Practical Stuff
What insurances do I accept? I am in network with Carefirst BCBS and Evernorth (previously known as Cigna).
Do I offer telehealth or in person sessions? To mitigate any potential risk to my clients and my family, I am only conducting Telehealth sessions at this time.
Am I taking on new clients? Not currently accepting new clients.
The Fun Stuff
Did you know…I was a chimney sweep in undergrad.
Any pets? I have a very sassy Terrier mix named Elsie.
What I’ve Learned
- Parenting Forward Conference: Parenting After Purity Culture, February 2021
- Ensuring Inequality: The Structural Transformation of the African American Family by Donna Franklin, March 2021
- 2021 Psychotherapy Networker Symposium Conference, March 2021
- This is Home: A Refugee Story, EPIX Documentary, April 2021
- Listened to recordings from 2021 Conference on Religious Trauma, June 2021
- The Wisdom of Trauma by Gabor Maté, SAND Documentary, June 2021
- Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristin Neff, July 2021
- It Didn’t Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle by Mark Wolynn, August 2021
- The Polyvagal Theory in Therapy: Engaging the Rhythm of Regulation by Deb Dana, August 2021
- Black Therapists Rock: A Glimpse Through the Eyes of Experts Compiled by Deran Young, August 2021
- Understanding and Addressing Racial Trauma in Behavioral Health, Relias Academy, August 2021
- Mandatory Reporter Training, Baltimore Child Abuse Center, August 2021
- Pray Away, Netflix Documentary, August 2021
- HIPAA and Behavioral Health, Relias Academy, August 2021
- Best Practices in Suicide Screening and Assessment, Relias Academy, August 2021
- Legal and Ethical Standards of Care in Behavioral Health, Relias Academy, August 2021
- Working More Effectively with the LGBTQ+ Community, Relias Academy, September 2021
- Internal Family Systems Therapy (2nd Ed.) by Richard Schwartz and Martha Sweezy, September 2021
- Racialized Trauma and Collective Healing with the Internal Family Systems Model Collective Trauma Summit 2021, September 2021
- How Our Nervous System and Real Connection Are the New Frontiers to Healing Trauma Collective Trauma Summit 2021, September 2021
- Application of Polyvagal Theory for Safety and Connection with Others Collective Trauma Summit 2021, September 2021
- Grief Within the Family Structure The Living Legacy Foundation, September 2021
- Second and Multigenerational Adult Former Cult Member Recovery Series, International Cultic Studies Association, October 2021
- The Impact of Cults on Childhood Development, International Cultic Studies Association, October 2021
- “An Intro to Working With the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) in Therapy,” The Counseling Center, October 2021
- Ask The Experts: Stuttering Awareness Training, Simple Practice, October 2021
- The Harsh Conscience, International Cultic Studies Association, October 2021
- Sexual Issues of Second Generation Adults and Multi-Generation Adult Former Cult Members, International Cultic Studies Association, October 2021
- Coping with Religious Relatives Over the Holidays, Divorcing Religion, November 2021
- Second and Multigenerational Adult Former Cult Member Recovery Series, Final Discussion, International Cultic Studies Association, November 2021
- Procession, Netflix Documentary, November 2021
- New Techniques of Grief Therapy: Bereavement and Beyond, Robert A. Neimeyer, December 2021
What I’ve Learned Lately
- The Drama Triangle and the Power & Control Wheel Walk Into a Church, International Cultic Studies Association, January 2022
- Reclamation as a Clinical Intervention, Reclamation Collective, January 2022
- You Are Your Own: A Reckoning with the Religious Trauma of Evangelical Christianity, Jamie Lee Finch, February 2022
- EMDR Basic Training: Five-Day Intensive, The Counseling Center, March 2022
- The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection through Embodied Living by Dr. Hillary McBride, March 2022
- Neuroqueer Heresies: Notes on the Neurodiversity Paradigm, Autistic Empowerment, and Postnormal Possibilities by Dr. Nick Walker, March 2022
- Anti-racism Training 3 Month Training, Dr. Nathalie Edmond, March & April 2022
- The Cult Pseudo Identity and the Phases of Recovery and Growth, International Cultic Studies Association, April 2022
- Identifying Religious Trauma, Empathy Paradigm, April 2022
- High-Control Dynamics, Empathy Paradigm, April 2022
- Stages of Recovery from Religious Trauma, Empathy Paradigm, April 2022
- Understanding the Dynamics of Adverse Religious Experiences & Religious Trauma: A Guide for Mental Health Professionals, by Dr. Laura Anderson, May 2022
- Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents by Dr. Lindsay Gibson, June 2022
- Gender Affirming Surgery Letter Writing Training, Tavi Hawn, LCSW-C, July 2022
- Traumatized by Religious Abuse: Courage, Hope and Freedom for Survivors, Connie Baker, August 2022
- No Bad Parts: Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with the Internal Family Systems Model, Richard Schwartz, September 2022
- Leaving the Fold: A Guide for Former Fundamentalists and Others Leaving Their Religion, Marlene Winell, October 2022
- Neurodiversity Training, Eddie Lomash, LCPC, November 2022
- The Wild Edge of Sorrow: Rituals of Renewal and the Sacred Work of Grief, Francis Weller, December 2022
- Healing Trauma: A Pioneering Program for Restoring the Wisdom of Your Body, Peter A. Levine, January 2023
- Decolonizing Trauma Work: Indigenous Stories and Strategies, Renee Linklater, February 2023
- Panic Disorders and Interventions, Sophia Alapati, LCPC, March 2023
How to Give me A Buzz
The best way to contact me is…by email to firstname.lastname@example.org