How To Choose A Therapist

Taking the first step to get help when you’re struggling with your mental health is huge! We are so happy you landed here. HoneyB Wellness is the home of many different therapists, each with our own unique approach and style. Since you’re on our website, we hope you’ll find one of our clinicians to be a good fit for your needs. 

We know that finding the right kind of help can be a difficult, overwhelming process. It’s important to make sure your therapist is as much the right fit for you as you are for them! We created this guide hoping to make the process a little less daunting. 

Okay, I’ve found a profile I like. How will I know if a therapist is a good fit for me? 

We highly recommend taking advantage of the free 10-15 minute consultation our therapists offer. This is the time when you can ask questions such as:

• How much experience do you have regarding BDSM topics?

• What is psychodrama, and how can it help me?

• What modalities do you use, and why?

• How does insurance work for therapy?

• What type of schedule do you recommend?

And so forth.

A few of our therapists use the same modality, which is the framework from which we provide therapy. However, the same modality does not necessarily equal the same experience. Therapists combine their modality with additional knowledge, training, and personal flavor in order to help clients achieve their goals. 

I’m not sure anyone at this practice is a good fit for me…

If none of our HoneyBs seem like a good fit, that’s okay! Don’t give up. Psychology Today  and TherapyDen are good place to start when looking for local therapists. You can search for care providers in your city or state using filters like insurances accepted, specialities, population preferences, or types of therapy, then see the profiles found within the results. Many therapists also now have the communities they are allied with on their profile, like “Open Relationships Non-Monogamy,” “Queer Allied,” or “Sex-Positive, Kink Allied.” Typically, therapists listed on Psychology Today also offer a free 10-15 minute consultation.

We always recommend talking to therapists first to see if they are a good fit. It is also okay and often helpful to contact several potential therapist before making an appointment. Looking for a therapist is like searching for any other service in this way. 

However, even if you like what we/they say, and even if you make an intake appointment, and even after you go to the intake appointment, you don’t have to go back if you don’t feel like it’s a good fit. We often hear concerns about what therapists will think if their client doesn’t want to continue with them. Speaking as therapists, we would much rather you make the best choice for you instead of worrying about us! Remember: we are providing a service. You can always choose to not continue using that service if it isn’t working for you. 

I like my therapist, but I’m not getting everything I need…

If you really like your therapist, but are concerned they don’t have the knowledge or expertise for a specific subject or type of therapy, you can look for a secondary therapist just for that! Most insurances will cover a second therapist if they’re for a specific reason.

I’ve found a therapist I like, but they aren’t accepting new clients. Now what? 

 Ask them for recommendations! Usually, therapists are connected to other therapists. They will know names to pass along, especially ones that address similar subjects, have similar styles, or use similar modalities. Some therapists also maintain a waiting list and will offer to reach out if a time becomes available. 

We’re more than happy to help you with further questions about finding a therapist or recommendations to other if we can’t assist you within the Hive. Best of luck in taking this first step!